What a fun and exaushting thread to read. Almost as entertaining as "What is a REAL XJ?" I'll add my two cents.
Regarding ZDDP levels, flat tappets and other things, I found this interesting forum post from late last year:
http://www.bobistheoilguy.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1049812
Regarding filters, I'll bump this link from earlier in the thread because I thought it was an awsome, indepth investigation:
http://www.knizefamily.net/minimopar/oilfilters/reference.html#champion
Based on everything I've read, I'm going to flush with a can of Seafoam in the crankcase for about 75 miles, then run Either Mobil 1 High Mileage Synthetic or Valvoline MaxLife Synthetic (10w-30 of whichever's easiest to find) and a Mobil 1 filter ($5 at local Kragen what a deal!) Maybe some Marvel Mystery oil for the first change just to help flush out some gunk.
After reading and researching I will no longer use engine flushes except this one time "car is new to me" Seafoam treatment (seems much gentler than the "5 min don't rev the engine above 400 rpm's because a lepracauhn will pop outaa my ass and clog the exahust bearing rotater gyro" stuff) and if it leaks with synthetic then I'll probably do something half assed like pour some Lucas in there because I'm too broke to fix the seals so I'll just resludge the engine to plug 'em up because I'm ok with sludge as long as I paid $5.99 for it and get to pour it in the crankcase myself.
Haven't heard a lot of cred given to Valvoline Max Life (dino oil/synthetic blend version), so I will say that up to this point I've used it in every POS hoopty mistreated engine I've ever had with good results. I blew a head gasket in a old beat up Ford Escort once, and the mechanic actually told me it was one of the cleanest heads he'd ever seen.
For reference I'm running an '89 233k 4.0 that seems well taken care of, bottom end doesn't leak a drop.
So there's my two cents, along with about a nickel of borrowed knowlege. Hooray for me I'm doing my first synthetic oil change! I really just wanted to be in the syn club...
