Why didn't you fully immerse yourselves in each other? Did you feel that both you and your wife were just too weak and you needed that crutch to lean on/blame?glfredrick said:Thanks... that is virtually EXACTLY what my wife and I said, yet today we are fully immersed in serving God in and out of church.
You're absolutely wrong on your assumption. Can't have hatred towards somethig that DOESN'T exist.glfredrick said:I assumed that you were coming at the discussion from a point of either hatred toward God, or agnosticism toward God, and I was correct in my assumption,
I don't think "god" showed you anything. I think some 'snake oil salesman' showed you what you wanted to see. If you really believe what you believe, by both of us losing a child, we got fawked. How can YOU put your trust into someone that robbed you of something so near and dear to you and your wife?glfredrick said:The answer to that question is just like I said above... God showed that He was both REAL and in control. He showed me in a number of ways that loosing a son was a small price to pay for gaining a life, and in any case, after over 20 years of advanced theological study, I have now come to a couple conclusions about God, faith, God's desire to build relationships, and the absolute goodness, love, and grace of God -- ALL THE TIME -- even when it doesn't seem so to us, from our perspective.
He got fawked too!!!glfredrick said:How about this biblical pasage by another hurting dad?
2 Samuel 12:13-31 (ESV) David said to Nathan, "I have sinned against the Lord." And Nathan said to David, "The Lord also has put away your sin; you shall not die. [14] Nevertheless, because by this deed you have utterly scorned the Lord, the child who is born to you shall die."Note that King David, even though he sinned against God with Bathsheba, was called "A man after God's own heart..."
[15] Then Nathan went to his house.And the Lord afflicted the child that Uriah's wife bore to David, and he became sick.
[16] David therefore sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and lay all night on the ground. [17] And the elders of his house stood beside him, to raise him from the ground, but he would not, nor did he eat food with them.
[18] On the seventh day the child died. And the servants of David were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they said, "Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spoke to him, and he did not listen to us. How then can we say to him the child is dead? He may do himself some harm."
[19] But when David saw that his servants were whispering together, David understood that the child was dead. And David said to his servants, "Is the child dead?" They said, "He is dead."
[20] Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes. And he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. He then went to his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate.
[21] Then his servants said to him, "What is this thing that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alive; but when the child died, you arose and ate food."
[22] He said, "While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, 'Who knows whether the Lord will be gracious to me, that the child may live?'
[23] But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me."
Acts 13:22 (ESV) And when he had removed him, he raised up David to be their king, of whom he testified and said, 'I have found in David the son of Jesse a man after my heart, who will do all my will.'
By your definition, I'm an atheist, always have been and always will be. So is my wife, and so are my kids. Don't need an imaginary friend to draw my strength from, I'm quite capable of doing that on my own. My sucesses and failures are all me. You should try it sometime, you just might start to question yourself. :dunno:glfredrick said:I take great comfort in knowing that God, through the words of King David, a man after God's own heart, said that I could go to where my son now is... That is the work of a good and gracious God, not the God I thought I knew (and perhaps the one you think you know) -- a capricious evil God. God is not evil. "He works all things out together for good for those who are called according to His purpose..." Perhaps this dialog is your "call." God does things through other humans -- that is His way. Test Him as I did and see if He is real. You might be VERY suprised as I (and my wife) was.
PS How I would like to say more, but I'm sure it would definitely get this thread closed. I wouldn't want to not be able to see you dig yourself deeper in your self admitted weakness. Be a man and stand up for YOURSELF.