I'm not trying to take it too far, I'm trying to prevent any problems from happening. When I drink, I tend to drink too much and get rowdy, that's just how I am. Not saying that's a good thing, to be honest it's probably a problem that I don't have an 'off' switch once I start. I also don't think it was just myself that was over the top last year, nor do I think anyone should be singled out. If it had been my situation to handle, I would have sent PM's out last year after the event to the people who were out of hand, explaining it was a family event, and we needed to tone it down. I agree a blanket statement needs to be made to cover everyone involved, but it should have been handled with the individuals involved in the examples you listed first, IMO.
I don't think you, or the BOD, are being jerks at all. I fully understand that the club name, reputation, and privilege to stay at Twin Grove is on the line, that's why I will most likely stay somewhere else. I don't mean to kick up a stink, or try to get others to leave the group, I just don't want to be involved in, or the cause of, any issues. Who knows, maybe by June I'll have given up drinking and started acting like an adult, but I doubt it.