Thanks for the bump, Richard...it's all good info!! My son's a freshman in the Engineering College at UCSB (Santa Barbara, for you non-CA folk), and chose to take only 3 classes (one of which only has 20 students) so he could get used to the college concept of learning. Of course, he went in with almost 40 credits from Advanced Placement classes & a 2-week summer program he did at UCSB, so he has a little margin for error without affecting his graduation timeline.
He still managed to crap out (47%) on his first math mid-term (and he's good at math; he says he just studied too far ahead in the book). Just took his second math mid-term (UC's weird "quarters" system, with quarters ending at winter break, spring break, and in June) and says he did much better and anticipates getting a B in the class.
I had him read some of the advice in this thread, and though he says he doesn't need the help right now, he is at least more aware that it's available from a "reality" level rather than just some student handbook saying it's there.