You would do yourself and her a favor if you would get your arms around this behavior. What you're describing is more than "friendship." I suspect you are her "ace in the hole." Not saying this makes sense but she is getting from you what she is not getting from him and you are helping facilitate HER bad behavior. Remember that she is not just a victim but a participant in douchebags' actions and their relationship. She is using you. You would do her a favor by walking away.
You would do yourself and her a favor if you would get your arms around this behavior. What you're describing is more than "friendship." I suspect you are her "ace in the hole." Not saying this makes sense but she is getting from you what she is not getting from him and you are helping facilitate HER bad behavior. Remember that she is not just a victim but a participant in douchebags' actions and their relationship. She is using you. You would do her a favor by walking away.
I'm thinking it's more like that country western song only a little different, the out of town boyfriend gets the gold mine, the local 'ace in the hole' can't even get the shaft into the any of the mine holes
You'll get over it... I've been through this before from exactly where you are. I stuck around way longer (2 douchebags, plus part of a third) before I got myself out of that emotional trainwreck and moved on with my life. Thus why I'm saying stay friends IF YOU CAN TRULY BE FRIENDS NOT ANYTHING ELSE, else, run like hell. Believe me it's better this way... might suck now, but eventually you'll either still be friends or won't be. Let her alone and if she wants to stay friends she'll come back, just don't expect anything other than friendship.