I just had a thought on that actually. It may be totally insane, I don't know...
Would it be possible to install a relay into the factory wires for the back up lights? So that when you put it into reverse, the power to the stock lights trips the relay for your better/useful lights, thus activating the independent (Read: safe and not melty) power supply to the auxillary lights?
Then you could (Maybe i don't really know) wire up a seperate switch to trip just the relay, without the stock lights coming on.
Not that anyone would EVER flash bright lights at the person tailgating you on the highway. Although, it could be amusing... if no one died. Of course if it was just for the purposes of say... setting up camp then it's all good