I also plan on doing a 350 swap. I’d rather have it overbuild than worry about breaking anything.
This statement makes this decision less straight forward.
What really matters here is your use case. How do you intend to drive the rig?
V8 + locked diff + 35's + party pedal = ka-boom!
For the most part, the rear axle will take it. 8.8's are good, even the 97+ factory 29 spline 8.25's are pretty stout and will handle a beating. The Dana 30 front is a different story.
First weak spot is the u-joints and axle shafts. The factory shafts just do not have enough meat around the u-joint yoke ears. Broken shafts or u-joints are pretty common. So then you upgrade to chromoly shafts and everything is pretty good. Problem then becomes your ring and pinion is not much stronger than those chromoly shafts. Put enough power in one end and resistance on the other and the gears will flex away from each other causing the stress to concentrate on the tip of the tooth, and then all the sudden you've stripped out your ring gear. This can be combatted by making the whole system more rigid with a full case locker, heavy diff cover, axle truss, hell you could even use a load bolt and girdle cover. Cryo treat the gearset. Go crazy. Put all the money into polishing the turd, and you'll have an axle that will hold up to a thrashing on 35's, probably. Even then, I wouldn't call it "overbuilt".
That's not to say people don't run that setup for years without issue. Many people do exactly that (more or less) and have great success for a long time. It all comes down to how you drive it. If your answer to a tough situation is skinny pedal, you might want to consider other options. If you're more about finesse and line choice, that will be good.
On the other hand, one tons are massive and IMO don't make sense for anything less than a 37 inch tire. There are also so many supporting mods that must be made to have one tons last. A full cage is probably necessary, not for safety but for chassis rigidity. The extra unsprung weight will tear the body apart over time. At that point you're probably also looking at hydo assist, a beefier transfer case, etc, etc.
The middle ground of building for 35's/37's is tricky. For a long time there wasn't a great option because Ford Dana 44's use the same u-joint as Dana 30's, so without an expensive shaft upgrade (like RCV's) they really were not much better. Now we have the option of JK 44's, which have some pro's and con's, but have been becoming a popular mid-grade swap. I'm currently in the process of putting JK axles under my XJ. The JK 44 ring and pinions are much beefier than the older 44's, and the front JK 44's use a slightly larger u-joint (1350 series Spicer 5-7166X). Downside is the housings are still pretty wimpy, and they use Dana 30 outers (ball joints/unit bearings). And also they're pricey.
I've been thinking about this for a long time if you couldn't tell lol. I could write a lot more about this topic.