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Re: THe NAC Lots-O-Post Thread
Everyday I got home from work and Jenn would proceed to tell me about her day. I know you haven't been following this story right from the get-go, but she worked at a school for special needs children and there were a lot of behavioral issues. She came home with some pretty fawked up stories. At first listening to her complain about the kids was endearing because they really are messed up. It slowly started to wear on me, but I felt bad because I knew she needed to get it off her chest. She lets things get under her skin too easily and always has. She gets "stressed out" at things that I don't even blink at. I'm a lot more laid back than her. I knew that her spouting it off to me was a big release for her and it let her relax. I eventually spoke up that it was wearing on me and it became a very sore subject that I didn't want to support her and give her my attention. I told her I didn't mind listening, but maybe not for quite that long and certainly not right when I get home from work. It still was a big point of contention between us
Please don't think that I'm asking this sarcastically: How could I have better handled this situation?
You raise some good points. Here's an anecdote that addresses all 3 of those rules in one way or another.Finally ... something I know more about than you guys ... relationships with women:woohoo::woohoo:
I've been married for 11 years and I can promise you something .... if you are getting bent out of shape over texting related stuff, then you have bigger problems. I have three simple rules that my wife and I follow, and life has been wonderful.
1. No whining or complaining .... ever ... about anything
2. Think of the other person before yourself
3. Don't sweat the small stuff
PS - my wife comes out to the garage from time to time, but she still won't do what I really want her to do in the garage. Someday .......
Everyday I got home from work and Jenn would proceed to tell me about her day. I know you haven't been following this story right from the get-go, but she worked at a school for special needs children and there were a lot of behavioral issues. She came home with some pretty fawked up stories. At first listening to her complain about the kids was endearing because they really are messed up. It slowly started to wear on me, but I felt bad because I knew she needed to get it off her chest. She lets things get under her skin too easily and always has. She gets "stressed out" at things that I don't even blink at. I'm a lot more laid back than her. I knew that her spouting it off to me was a big release for her and it let her relax. I eventually spoke up that it was wearing on me and it became a very sore subject that I didn't want to support her and give her my attention. I told her I didn't mind listening, but maybe not for quite that long and certainly not right when I get home from work. It still was a big point of contention between us

Please don't think that I'm asking this sarcastically: How could I have better handled this situation?