Just thought I'd update this since I never seem to finish anything.
Bought a 19.99 impact driver as 8Mud suggested- great tool, but it's too long to fit onto the oil drain plug and still be able to hit it with any force.
so I took it back to the Jiffy Lube that the oil was last changed at, and it turns out I know one of the managers from High school.- he let me down into the pit, and I watched as he got it off with an air ratchet. the drain plug itself was destroyed, but the threads in the oil pan were still ok.- new drain plug, free.
The manager then let me add my own oil and filter,(mobil 1) had one of the high school kids clean the windows and vaccume, and I was on my way-
NO CHARGE, and he says I'm welcome to come in during off hours to use thier service bay in the future.
worked out well.
thanks again to all who helped
B