Kicked out of school.

yeah, i know about refinancing, alec.
and i totally agree with the counseling idea. i realize that most of our problems come from my end of things, but it takes both of us to work through it. i don't want to give the idea that we argue a lot or anything, but my financial situation hasn't been great the whole time we've been together. she's just tired of worrying about where the money for bills is going to come from. other than that, we get along great, all the time.
 
ha, we both worry plenty- she's just tired of it. before living with me, she didn't have to worry about it because her daddy would take care of everything. my parents can't help me with anything, and since we got married, we try to be independent and ask for as little help as possible.
 
5-90 said:
I hear they know what causes that these days - howcumzit "accidental?" Gotta watch where you put that thing, y'know?
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Yup. He was kinda "that one" who made everyone else step back and rethink things a bit.

Typical story too..GF turns psycho shortly after kid is born, lots of in and out of court over custody..etc etc. Hate it for my buddy though...great guy and a great father to his son. Needless to say grades fell like a rock (was a fellow Engineering major as well).
 
thechief86 said:
So with all the crap going on with my dad, and trying to find a job, and everything else that's been going on, i ended up letting my grades slip something fierce this semester. i have been on probation before, but had thought that several consecutive semesters of having A's and B's would have gotten me in good standing, and i would just be on probation this spring, with the option of retaking the classes i failed. well, anyway, a couple hours ago, i tried to confirm my enrollment, and was denied access, with the computer saying that i'm suspended for a year. I had everything set up to graduate next december, so this is really messing up any plans i had for getting a job, and possibly even getting out of murfreesboro.
needless to say, my wife is pissed at me, but she has never failed a class in her life, and has never had any type of major catastrophe happen in her lifetime, so she has no idea how i possibly could have let things get out of hand like this. my dad is getting better rapidly, and is having his last surgery this week, so i'm going to try to appeal the suspension, and see if they'll give me one more last chance, although i've used a bunch of those up already:gee:
i am really stressed out about all of this. i DO NOT want to have to pay back student loans on a factory worker's salary. this is probably going to kill me.
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What school were you attending? First I'd suggest sitting yourself down and going through what you want in life and why you're going to school. Give yourself some goals and a plan to make them happen. Not saying this is why you slipped, but it will help you overcome obstacles. You cannot help others until you can first help yourself. This is something nearly half of this country fails to understand. Second, request for a meeting with the Dean and explain your situation, tell them you need a second chance. Maybe even bring along some recommendation letters from people you know with respectable resumes. You're in Tennessee, unless you're going to Vandy law I'm sure you'll be able to get a 2nd chance. (Don't take that as a knock on other TN schools, just the truth) I had a friend who's parent went through some bad health issues and that semester he too was put on suspension due to grades. He explained the situation and was reinstated.

Third, and this will be the most important, don't make them regret letting you have the 2nd chance. Good luck with this and I hope you are successful in your reinstatement. Also good luck to your Dad.

YJ-GENRAL said:
wtf? thats stupid, what do they care for? you are paying to take classes at their school, why would they tell you you cant, thats rejecting money on their part and education on yours... thats stupid... thats like saying you cant come back to my restaurant because you have consistently left food on your plate...

is there another college you can attend in the area?
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Some schools have standards to maintain. It helps their graduates get placed in jobs before graduates from other institutions. Not sure if that's the case here, but that's one reason.
 
thechief86 said:
ha, we both worry plenty- she's just tired of it. before living with me, she didn't have to worry about it because her daddy would take care of everything. my parents can't help me with anything, and since we got married, we try to be independent and ask for as little help as possible.
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sounds like she is tired of it because she has never had to deal with it for real. thats not something to get a divorce over though. thick and thin right? good and bad?
 
Listen to bigalpha. I'm a graduate student and faculty member at MTSU, if you set up an appointment with a dean and have documentation of everything (including some way of documenting your father's illness) and can logically explain how the hardship of handling the situation has impaired your ability to succeed in your coursework then he or she will most likely be sympathetic and will either reinstate you or direct you to someone who can.

Best of luck...
 
thechief86 said:
(most likely without my wife, who's fed up with my problems.)
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I'm fed up with your problems and I don't know you. Get a grip dude. Man up, accept your responsibility as a husband and provider. You screwed up school. Relying on a loan for school to pay for rent is stupid. You and your wife need a Dave Ramsey wake up and counselling.
 
hadfield4wd said:
I'm fed up with your problems and I don't know you. Get a grip dude. Man up, accept your responsibility as a husband and provider. You screwed up school. Relying on a loan for school to pay for rent is stupid. You and your wife need a Dave Ramsey wake up and counselling.
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No need to be a dick.
 
hadfield4wd said:
Relying on a loan for school to pay for rent is stupid. You and your wife need a Dave Ramsey wake up and counselling.
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I agree with this. Unless you grab the problems by the horns and kick them out of your life, expect only the same. This goes back to what I said about developing some kind of plan here.
 
hadfield4wd said:
I'm fed up with your problems and I don't know you. Get a grip dude. Man up, accept your responsibility as a husband and provider. You screwed up school. Relying on a loan for school to pay for rent is stupid. You and your wife need a Dave Ramsey wake up and counseling.
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i don't know if dave ramsey would have any good advice on my particular situation, but things are looking up, i guess.
my wife moved back in with her dad, and i've moved back to west tn. i'm negotiating a job here, and hoping that even if this one doesn't work out, others will come. i guess i was just in the wrong town, and making bad descisions to cover for the last bad descisions i made. as for you being fed up with my problems, i'm sorry that i intruded into your life and forced you to speak up. i do actually appreciate the advice, but sometimes what you say isn't as important as how you say it. but that's your can o' worms i guess. i talked to my landlord, and he's not too bothered by the whole deal, and says he doesn't mind just keeping the security deposit, which is about what i'll owe in rent when it comes due.
 
I'm sorry to hear about this eric. How long will you be in West TN?
 
Keep positive and try and work things out.
 
Keep your chin up dude. Things will get better, they always do. Try to work things out with your wife. Later, if things between you and her don't work out, at least you will know that you tried.

Your situation reminds me of a quote I read awhile back.

When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, never give up then, for that is just the time and place that the tide will turn.
 
holy smokes! i leave naxja alone for a couple weeks and look what happens!

just remember everything happens for a reason.

coming from someone that already has an ex wife i have to say i don't regret a single second of it.

we both had important, valuable, life lessons to learn and it took that relationship to teach us those things.

take what you've experienced and make it a learning experience. those who don't learn from the past are doomed to repeat it.

good luck buddy
 
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