It's probably not that grade 8 bolts are not strong enough - as you said, go to a supplier that will sell you what you ask for, not what they pull out of a mystery box. Ask for material certs - if the place is reputable they will have them for each box of bolts. This isn't ace hardware store stuff, it's graded material.
The reason I say that the grade 8 stuff is probably OK is that there are thousands of jeeps out there with OEM hardware that have not experienced this failure - I've not (yet), but most of my driving is tame on the mounts (highway).