I said some of this in my last PM to you on the other forum, but I figured I'd throw my $.02 in here since I've got direct experience with both lockers.
OX vs ARB is a tough one... we like both and have been pretty happy with all of them. Personally I think I kinda lean towards the OX though, mainly because it's all mechanical -- you never have to worry about air leaks, or electrical issues, or anything like that. Not that our ARBs have given us any of those troubles though, but with an OX they aren't even a possibility.
The biggest downside to the OX is routing the cable and mounting the shifter -- this is probably the biggest issue for an XJ installation. That's where the ARB is nice because you only have to worry about mounting a rocker switch. The OX also comes with a bomb-proof diff cover which helps sway the cost benefits more towards the OX again.
Between our 2 Jeeps we've got 2 ARBs, 1 OX, and 1 Detroit. We got the OX (D30 in the front of our TJ) back right after their first came out. I think we got it the summer of 2001. The only real problems we've had with it were related to 1st generation design bugs which OX subsequently resolved. Aside from the cover all our OX components (shifter, cable, carrier) have been replaced/upgraded with their current generation of parts.
I've had the ARB in the front of my XJ since the fall of 2002, and it was used when I got it. Other than a pesky leak around the threads of one of the fittings on the compressor when I first installed it, my ARB has been absolutely trouble-free.
The only trouble we've had from the ARB in the rear of our TJ had to do with oil drainage from the driver-side tube back intot he diff. Despite drilling 2 drain holes into the tube from inside the diff oil would still build up enough on that side to start spewing out the breather tube. This was on the road, with the compressor off and depressurized (it never spewed off-road). I think some of that probably had to do with excess heat during the gear break-in period (I installed the ARB at the same time that I regeared our TJ to 4.88s).
As others have already stated, the biggest cause of problems with either locker is improper installation.