Damn, Andy... So sorry to hear about it!
My friend Karen (Bluedog23) saw the threads when she got home from SoCalFest (a few hours before I did), & called me to ask if I knew you & said she wanted to help but couldn't get her PayPal to work. So I'm pitching in a little bit from each of us, with wishes that either of us had the funds to do more, or a way to make it better for you & your family.
Hang in there, my friend! Now do you believe we still love you even though you've moved on from XJs???
Carol ( & Karen)