XJoachim said:
Matt, you're right, i'm estimating to fit coilovers

but i don't want to throw out too much money for coils because i have to keep them. Sending them back would be more than the coils cost. Therefore a coil also has about double the price for me than for you because of freight.
MaXJohnson, thanks, thats what i wanted to hear. I made my own estimation and our numbers are really close so i think that are numbers to work with.
With that numbers in mind i think i will go with a 250/350 combo front and a 200/250 combo rear for a 14" travel shock. I added 200 lbs. for a winch bumper and a winch, what do you think about that
Measure the deflection of the existing front coils to make a good guess of the current front sprung weight. This allows you to calculate the true sprung weight by measuring the coil deflection at each front corner. Someone on

posted the typical XJ coil rates (and they can probably get you close).
FWIW, most XJ's with minor weight additions run ~700# spring weight per corner up front (~1400 total). The rear weight varies more because spare tire placement can really alter the distribution, but it's usually ~80-90% of the front spring weight (the weight balance of a loaded XJ is not as bad as most expect).
If you are under a budget I would only order the primary rate coils, the coil with the spring rate you want when close to the full compression travel of the shocks, until you can identify the true sprung weight. You can order in advance, and swap (if the vendor is willing to trade springs) later to the final combination, but you will need to pay the postage (and I read you understand it may not be worth the cost).
Lately the trend as been to a higher front spring rate on the

wildmen rigs, compared to a few years back, more along the lines of the RE ZJV8 220#/in rate and the old Rancho 240#/in spring rate. This is because the more rigid rate provides more responsive handling on the road and still allows good articulation. The normal aftermarket XJ coil only provides ~10 inches of total deflection (why we see so many unseated XJ coils at full extension) so your 14-inch travel coilovers can be tuned better than the typical XJ coil, and still have a fairly rigid primary spring rate (something like the 250#/in you mention). The 250/350 coil stack provides a reasonable jump in rate, from 146#/in to 250, so (IMO) it's not too bad of a choice. A stock XJ coil is somewhere between 145 and 160#/in so the combined coil 146#/in rate should work as a starting point. A 250/450 coil combination makes the rate ~161#/in, slightly more rigid, but not enough to get excited about until you test the ride.
The rear spring rate is more of a guess, as the XJ leaf pack is progressive rate, although fairly low compared to the front rates (maybe someone can post some published numbers). I am making an educated guess (SWAG) that 200#/in will result in a fairly rigid primary rate, with a large rate jump from the combined 111#/in rate from the 200/250 coil stack. It will likely ride harsh, and kick up some on the rear at speed when you hit the spring rate transition (unless you really tighten the dampening, and make it harsh all the time). Maybe we can do better for the rear spring combination? A 150/350 combination nets a similar 105#/in combined rate with a 150#/in primary. Some published numbers for the rear spring rates available for other lifts, with subjective feedback on how they ride, will help.
You will probably need to run keeper or lightweight tender springs to lower the ride height to where you want it to be. We can get more in detail later.