My Most useful present... (this one's a tear jerker)

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I started writing a response to Rich's thread, but I just thought this deserves its own.

when I look back (especially now), I think the most useful present I ever received was my 86 Cherokee. The keys were in my stocking, christmas of '98. It had a 2.8L V6, automatic, and the 228 transfer case. It wasn't a hop in and go type vehicle. it was a project vehicle. it needed lots of work. I didn't really know much about vehicles at the time. Dad and I had done all sorts of maintenance type stuff together, I always showed an interest in workin on vehicles. For as long as I can remember, I was always by my dad's side in the garage. Spent years as his "gopher". I learned the names of tools and what they did by doing this.

When the XJ showed up. the hands on learning started. I turned the wrenches. I learned so much about vehicles from this experience. When the other kids in school were goin to the mall and hangin out, I was in the garage with Dad. Learning all the pieces of a vehicle, what they do, where they go, how they work and how to fix them.

Although the original XJ that started it all is gone, Dad used that beat-up old XJ as a tool. He took that knowledge in his head and and copied it into mine. I used that knowledge all the time. To help others, to help us, to help myself.

It got me into wheelin, a hobby which has brought so much to my life. The knowledge I have gained because of this hobby is priceless. The people I have met on the trail, through this club and some others are some of the kindest and most awesome people I have ever met. The only thing I value more than this are my friends and family.

This last summer I picked up a basket case MJ. same color as the original XJ, many of the same problems. Now of course, dad's reaction to me dragging more junk home was a typical dad reaction. But even when he said things like "You're nuts" or "What the hell do you need that for" He always had the biggest grin on his face. He was a motorhead when He was young as well. Had a 67 Chevelle SS L88. The motor was basically a race motor built for the street (I've heard the story of the night when he and his friends, after a few beverages, decided to replace their racecar's blown motor with his motor for the next day at the track, let's just say his motor did very well in the car.) He saw so much of himself in me.

So anyway, I took this basket case MJ, and made one hell of a rig out of it. Did most of the work without my dad by my side all the time. When I got stuck, he was there to help, to teach the final few lessons in basically rebuilding a vehicle from the ground up. But he gave me all the knowledge to do it. Rebuilding the motor, swapping in a completely different drivetrain and turning one man's trash into my treasure. I know it made him so proud so see his son be able to do it.

By putting two stamped pieces of metal on a ring into my stocking that christmas, my father gave me so much. This past sunday, I was out on the trail, with some great people doing something I love. Mike and I had chopped the top off the MJ on saturday. Sunday was the first day I got to enjoy it. Literally, it was the single best day of my life thus far.

That sunday was also the day my father passed away. I'm just starting to realize now just how much he's done for me and how truly great of a man he really was. With those keys in the stocking, my dad gave me things that no amount of money can buy.

Even now, with how sad I am, and how much I miss him. when I look at that MJ parked in my driveway, it puts a great big grin on my face, even now when I need it the most. Though it sounds weird, it almost seems like by giving me those keys, he gave me the strength to carry on.

I love you so much Dad, and more now than ever before. You lead me to peace and happiness in an event where most would find none. To me, you are, and always will be, the greatest man that ever walked this earth.

Thank you so much!
 
wow, I'm glad you appreciate what you had and what you've still got, that says a lot about you as a person. I've never met you, but I offer my deepest condolences. My dad's not much for automotive things, but I can relate in so many other ways.

So sorry for your loss.

Arya Ebrahimi
 
Cheap --

May the God of your preference smile on you and your father.

That's one heck of a eulogy, man. I hope you or someone will print it and show it to your mother.
 
Cheap,

Sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sure your Father would be filled with pride to know that you love and appreciate him so much. In my younger years my dad and I were not close at all and one day when I was about 21 many of the things he had been trying to get through my thick skull became crystal clear. I am greatful because now he is one of my best friends and we have a better appreciation of each other. I wish it hadn't taken so long!!

The eulogy you wrote is one of the greatest tributes that you can give to your Father and his memory. It shows that the bond that you had will always be with you. It also shows the skills that he used to get you ready to face the world on your own.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and I hope the love your Father had for all of you will help you through this difficult time.

Hang in there and God speed to your Dad :angel:
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Not much to say except my condolences, it's a tough thing to loose parents. I know I miss mine.

Rich
 
Sorry about your loss, at least you know how important he was to you before you lost him and the great gift you were given.
 
My father (PoPs) passed away Oct '02. He always said the most precious thing I could give my kids were "memories". His favorite thing about all of us getting together was to listen to all of us recall and tell stories and laugh. We all stayed with him while he died and did just that ... we knew he could hear us and I know it made his passing peaceful. Now that he is gone, the memories of "PoPs" is one of the most precious things I have.

You are very lucky to have the same precious memories. Your father is right there inside of you.

Les
 
i have thought about this thread and as a father, if my children would do as Allan Jackson said in his song “Drive” “Maybe one day they will reach back in their file, and pull out that old memory, and think of me and smile.” that will be the best gift ever given to me, that is what you have done for your dad.
 
Cheap, that is awesome. When my grandfather passed away in 2000, he had been a jeeper for about 40 years or so, so for his eulogy the whole jeep club (and several others) showed up and they all drove through town to get to the reception place. over 200 jeeps and toyotas, but my grandpas old 47 willys w/ the original 4banger in it led the way. he passed on his love of jeeps to both my brother, my cousins, and myself, and now we are trying to carry on the tradition as well as we can. my grandma might have been a grumpy 'ol man a lot of the times, but he was a great influence on my life. now im proudly serving in the US army fixing helicopters, and while I'm not the greatest mechanic, i learn more each time i wrench on that beloved, yet madly irritating, aircraft.

Kristen
 
Cheap,
That's an awesome post. My sincere condolences on your loss. My dad's getting up there in years, and the day will be here WAY too soon when he's not there anymore. My dad's passed on alot to me also. I like to think that I'm as intelligent as he is, but I can only HOPE to one day have as much common sense. He is truly wise. He's actually visiting here this weekend, and I'm going to savor every moment while I can.
 
Condolences :( but dig on the :sunshine: memories and celebrate the lessons learned every time you pass one along.

I lost my dad 9 yrs ago. Hardest time of my life without a doubt...

He bought a barely used '84 4cyl/5sp Pioneer in June '85. I met it a month later when I came home on leave fresh from Scout OSUT at Ft Knox. Didn't get to swim a M113, but we swum some Jeep ;) and had much fun in it about every six months for it's 85-91 tour of Woody Family Duty...
 
Re: My Most useful present...

Cheap,
I lost my dad October 15, 2002. He was my friend. Man, I still miss him. He was a street rodder. He built everything from a Model A rodster pickup to a slammed and blown big block 57 2 door post. He never understood why I wheeled. He felt a 4 wheel drive was just a tow rig. But he helped me with my first 4 wheel drive, a 75 Blazer that I took to the sand dunes weekly. He showed me how to get the most ponies out of the 350 and always told me HP will make up for most mistakes (even the female kind). I got into drag racing motorcycles in the early nineties and he just shook his head and showed what I needed to do to get that GPZ 1100 down into the low 10s. He always told me I was trying to beat him to the grave. My wife got me to give up the bikes, so I came back to 4 wheelin. My in-law blew the engine in his XJ and I thought, with my dad's help an new engine and I will be back playing in the sand. He passed away from cancer just after I got the Jeep. It has been hard for me, everytime I go out to work on it I want to call him and ask advice. I will always turn a wrench and think of him.


In memory of my dad (Steve D. Martin):

God looked around his garden
and found an empty place.
He then looked down upon the earth
and saw your tired face.

He put his arms around you and lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful, he always takes the best.

He knew that you were suffering,
He knew you were in pain.
He knew you would never get well on earth again.

He saw the road was really getting rough
and the hills were hard to climb,
so he closed your weary eyelids and whispered,
"Peace be thine."

It broke my heart to lose you, but you did not go alone...
for part of me went with you the day
God called you home.
 
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