PDC = Power Distribution Center. Its the black box reward of the battery on the passenger side. On the underside of the lid it will be labeled which relay is which.
If this was mine this is what I would do. With the ELM.
I'm going off their instructions and the picture on site. The instructions you received in email plain suck. All the wires you need are right near the PDC, so its easy access and you can put the Elm there or run it back into the cab for better protection. It does need to be protected from teh elements, so perhaps seal teh ELM up in a project box or something. Bold is the stuff on the board.
JP3: Begin
JP4: A
JP5: -
+ : to some positive source.. like the battery or the positive terminal on the PDC (very front of the box, its covered).
- : ground it to a bolt or something, just needs a negative input.
TGR: something that turns on when the engine is running. Such as the fuel pump relay control. That would be a Brown wire in the harness that goes to the PDC. It will also be a negative wire. That comes from the PCM. If you don't want to use that wire you can use the Dark green with a white tracer (DG/WT), also in the PDC wiring harness. This wire sends the power to the fuel pump. However if you use that JP5 will have to be +
COM: To the trigger on the fan relay. Dark Blue with Pink tracer (DB/PK), also on the PDC harness. You may also want to put a diode on the DB/PK wire going back to the PCM so that negative doesn't go to the PCM. Don't know if it would do anything, but I don't know that for a fact.
N/O: Negative or ground, because the fan is a negative trigger. Can just jumper off "-" on the Elm.
If you look at this PDF:
http://www.elkproducts.com/pdf/960_hookups.pdf you are basically doing #1.
The wattage won't matter with this as you are simply running the factory relay. I would not directly power the fan using the Elm relay.
Now that I got that figured I will just have to get one for myself.
-Chris