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Cherokeekid88

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...Moving out :) But seriously....The Girl and I have decided that we need our time and need to flee the nest. I love my parents to death and have never asked me to pay rent or help out around the house ( I do anyways) but it is just that time...My mom is going to be SO upset...She might get so upset with me that she doesn't talk to me for a while....We plan on moving out at the first of October and no I haven't told my parents yet.....I just can't seem to find a good time to tell them. I just want to ease into it and let my mom down easy...my dad will be fine with it I think, its just my mom being upset is what I am worried about...
 
Truth always works best. Just sit down and talk to them. After they get over the shock of there kid growing up, they'll party.I know i did when my kid moved out.Man it was nice, BUT then they moved back in.
But it was nice after about a month of them being gone we enjoyed having the house to ourselfs.
But then they moved back in.
LOL, just tell them.
 
Yeah, I am thinking about telling them in a few days...maybe on Saturday.... I mean, I could stand to live at home alittle longer, but my girls' dad is a drinker and he is starting to get out of control and I don't think it is fair to make her have to deal with that every day, plus I want to go home to my house, get naked and walk around like that if I want to.... Is it bad that I am REALLY looking forward to that? :)
 
Are you buying or renting? I'd advise not buying if you aren't married.
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
Yeah, I am thinking about telling them in a few days...maybe on Saturday.... I mean, I could stand to live at home alittle longer, but my girls' dad is a drinker and he is starting to get out of control and I don't think it is fair to make her have to deal with that every day, plus I want to go home to my house, get naked and walk around like that if I want to.... Is it bad that I am REALLY looking forward to that? :)
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But then they moved back in.LOL.

:wave:Now you see what i was saying.
 
To be honest with you, it's not easy. At least it wasn't for me since my mom and I were/are so close. I ended up packing and moving most of my stuff over 3 days while my mom was sleeping (worked 3rd shift at the time). On the third day woke her up to have a talk with her and told her I was moving out and all my stuff was already gone so I wasn't moving back in. Telling her that I was moving in with a girl was definitely the hardest part but she understood that it was time for me to move out and move on with my life. If it weren't for my Grandfather I don't think she would have been so calm about it. In either case, best of luck to you with how you choose to tell them and best of luck with the woman!
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
Yeah, I am thinking about telling them in a few days...maybe on Saturday.... I mean, I could stand to live at home alittle longer, but my girls' dad is a drinker and he is starting to get out of control and I don't think it is fair to make her have to deal with that every day, plus I want to go home to my house, get naked and walk around like that if I want to.... Is it bad that I am REALLY looking forward to that? :)
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just walk around your house naked right now.

if youre lucky your family will tell you to put some clothes on or move out. Then you can choose to move out and its thier fault.
 
Cherokeekid88 said:
...Moving out :) But seriously....The Girl and I have decided that we need our time and need to flee the nest. I love my parents to death and have never asked me to pay rent or help out around the house ( I do anyways) but it is just that time...My mom is going to be SO upset...She might get so upset with me that she doesn't talk to me for a while....We plan on moving out at the first of October and no I haven't told my parents yet.....I just can't seem to find a good time to tell them. I just want to ease into it and let my mom down easy...my dad will be fine with it I think, its just my mom being upset is what I am worried about...
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Just be calm and truthful. They may not be as upset as you think. In fact, they're probably sick of you and have been waiting for you to leave for years. You'll know for sure if after you move out, they suddenly relocate without leaving a forwarding address. ;)
 
dude i moved out with my ex girl for like 4 years... my bills stacked up so bad that im up to my ears in debt now... to add insult to injury, we got engaged pretty early in the relationship...well we were so involved that both vehicles were in my name, my 05 honda and 00 xj, when we parted ways she needed a vehicle, she cried and moaned about the xj she had to have it etc etc... well long story short i sold her the xj and i went 7 months w/o one... now i have another xj and this issue wont repeat itself... no settling down for me! i actually moved back home just so i could play catch up on my bills. good luck moving out but parents know whats best for their kids =)


oh ya heres something to think about ;) the $$$ u saved living at home will now have to go to an apartment (rent/electrical/gas/trash/water) so now your offroading life is gonna suffer... just saying ;) im speaking from experience.
 
I did the same thing about 10 years ago, only the upset one was my dad not my mom. Mom made me a small care package with soap, shampoo, some food and things like that. Dad couldn't handle it. He couldn't look me in the eyes, he turned and cried when I left. The first time I went back to visit he cried again. Every family is different. My dad is an only child that lived at home until he and my mom were married. That's how dad sees it fit. I told him in advance that my plans were to move out because I wanted to experience what it's like to have responsibilities. He never accepted it, but he couldn't stop me. 2 years later I moved back home.

Not sure really what my point was in telling that story...other than maybe be honest with your folks, tell they why you want to do it, sell it as being that you want the experience and you're certain it'll help you grow up and become mature. Then show them you can do it.
 
My definition of freedom is when all the kids move out and the dog dies. :D

Got rid of the dog several years ago, but the kids keep moving back in. :doh:
 
My situation was opposite, My mom moved to FL. Looking back its the best thing she has done for me. I was a slacker when I lived with her. After she moved I HAD to work, there was no way around that. Now, I've earned everything I have and am grateful for everything I have. Yes, your mom may be sad but in reality she's gonna love it when you're gone!
 
Do you share the same goals in life and are equally committed to the achievement of these goals, have you written these goals down? Schooling, careers, family planning should be addressed on this list.

Have you crunched the numbers on what it will cost to move into your own place, cover all your living expense including renters insurance, have some extra cash saved for those little "surprises" that life occasionally will deal you, each have your own vehicles that you can pay for individually including all operating expenses? Do you both have health insurance coverage, can you afford the deductibles? Do you commit to not taking government assistance to sustain this arrangement?

Its not just about money, but the lack thereof just complicates the relationship.

I've seen too many of these situations not work out, statistically the odds are against the whole live together thing lasting long-term. If she is the one that you want to share everything in your life with, then why would you not want to make her your wife first?
 
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