What Drive line are you using? (New/Used) Also, what is your front pinion angle look like after the lift? The front driveline is always spinning on an XJ regardless if you're in 4x4 or not. Vibes could be coming from the front too.
Either your front driveline is vibrating due to bad pinion angle,
or
Your rear driveline is out of balance.
You can remove the front driveline and drive around and if your vibes go away - then you know its the front. If not, go get the driveline balanced.
One thing to note though, The XJ doesn't have a way to properly adjust Caster angle on the front axle. Caster angle is increased or decreased by adjusting the upper/lower control arms.(If your lift kit allows) Only issue is, this negatively affects your driveline angle since you are rotating the entire axle. So, you have to find a happy medium between Caster angle, and acceptable driveline vibes.