GOT IT FIXED!!!!!!!party1:
Found the speed sensor/distance sensor or what ever they want to call it. Started tracking wires looking for the connector. It is back on the adapter just below the speedo cable. Got to the other side of the TC and found 2 sets of wires that look like they had been spiced before. Checked colors and 1 was the same 1 was different, took some jumpers and connected them, rechecked the TCU plug with the XJ rolling in nuetral and had a signal. Repaired the wires and it shifts great now.
One more thing fixed the rest is minor.
Thanks for all the help on this thing.