You really shouldn't be in 4wd with a donut.
In fact, I think one of the biggest reasons for 4wd parts failures (especially on Full-Time 4x4s) is different inflation pressures. That different diameter, created by varying pressures, has to be made up somewhere unless you can slip a tire on occasion - sand, water, ice, etc, - there is a "bind" built up by the difference.
I had an old Subaru BRAT that went through outside axle assemblies w/in about my first three months. I knew the former owners, and they insisted it was OK to run in 4x4 (front-wheel drive all the time, rear wheels kicked in 4x4) in the rain and during the winter.
I had to replace ALL 4 of the axle shafts - $200/pop - by the time I finally got the license plates.
Don't go far with a donut, and don't go into 4x4, please!
Also, if you have ABS, it screws everything up, I would think.
mfrs use donuts cuz they're cheap, lighter, more room. They don't have to drive 400 miles to grandmas in the snow w/one!
Greg